If everything goes well I will have my first wrestling meet next month. I'm curious and excited. Everybody would be... but I am a bit more. I am afraid of it.
Dealing with depression in my life... whatever. I take medicine, I know my downs and evil thoughts, my ups and cocky behaviour. But having schizoid behaviour is a much more deep impact in my life, or let's say, the life that I am supposed to live.
Besides of major problems with work and society standards, one thing always let me look damn jealous to other people: They could touch each other... just like that! They hug, kiss, squeeze, cuddle, grapple each other like there's nothing to it. Man, how do you...?
This probably sounds ridiculous to the most of you, especially on a site like this. I am extremely afraid of body contact. It is impossible for me to do it out of the blue. Every time I do it so many thoughts are rushing through my head: "Is it _now_ the right time? How long? How strong? Where is it appropriate?" When others touch me, I mostly cramp, slide away, full of fear of being too sweaty, maybe too smelly for the other person. How to react? It's a nightmare.
Anyway, what does that have to do with wrestling? I would see it like a shock treatment.
I tried a few times to do a very light Aikido. It was mostly relaxing and very, very simple moves. First I was motivated, bought a book, practiced Seiza and tried to combine breathe and movement. That was all fine. Until I had to get in contact with others. You know, like touching each other, feeling each other, using their power for your power... I failed damn hard.
There was no way for me to feel the other, how he moved, how I had to react. I got so confused by moving and thinking, keeping in mind, while I was doing movements, there was another human with me. In the end I left Aikido with a bigger fear of getting in touch with others than before...
The only time I had no problem touching was, when I got used as an example for certain moves. I guess then I wasn't responsible, just responding. Guided and "safe", even though it hurt, I just trusted the teacher.
As I write in my profile, this will be the only way for me to wrestle, get in contact, touch and get touched (and learn to be relaxed with that)... by just responding (to a dominant action of an opponent). Of course, I'm still afraid of doing things that could hurt others or being too soft, but that I will find out next month... phew
The worst and biggest fear is getting told "Sorry, you're impossible!". I would nod, accept and delete my profile. Shock treatment failed. (And NO, Cyberstuff is NOT an alternative :P )
Wish me luck...
Today I'm taking the next step.... I'm joining a local boxing gym. Not a 'fitness' gym, but an actual boxing gym. They do have men, women, kids, pros, amatuers, and 'white-collar', but it's all boxing. I am so excited to be finally doing this, and plan on posting about my progress!
Offering cash for guys to wrestle me
Love wrestling outdoors on grassy asses
Yeah I have one bad recommendation but as the guy who left it has since blocked me u have no way to contact him
Come on guys cash waiting
Rather than changing my profile for a short while; I'll write it here.
Q: I get asked a lot if I'm a part of the Spotland Scrappers.
(I have no idea why... I don't know how they confuse me with Ray Junior mainly, and others...)
A: No, I'm not... However they are a nice bunch of lads.
Motel Wrestler: Reader Mail from Brazil: http://motelwrestler.blogspot.com/2017/03/reader-mail-from-brazil.html
As a newbie, who to look for as a potential opponent? :)
When looking for another beginner as your wrestling date, you may think it is better as the match is going to be more even / balanced and it won't hurt so much! :D My experience says it really doesn't work like this. ;)
Meeting a skilled wrestler means meeting someone who:
1) has met many skilled and unskilled fighters before,
2) knows a bit how the fight is going on, what hurts, which hold can cause an injury etc.,
3) has reccomendations in profile you can read
4) is not afraid to meet other guys and usually it is easier to agree about a meeting,
5) probably is willing to coach you a bit and teach you some of his skills,
6) also was a beginner once
From my point of view, definitely do not be afraid of skilled wrestlers as a newbie! Many skilled wrestlers are happy to initiate a newbie to wrestling and invite them to "the club".
PS: this entry was part of my discussion in the interest group "Newbies training center".
Just as I felt I was over the rotator cuff injury, I have been really stupid. I have been doing a different job at work and not coping very well with the extra stress it has bought me, so in my anger and frustration I hit 'my point' and flipped.
I lashed out and punched a metal plate and now I have two broken knuckles and a displaced finger. See the surgeon next week.
I can only say, CRAP and next time dont do it.
I had done a mistake. For inspired by the approaching spring's warm weather and an attempt to get fit again I had increased my running, yet had not realised the consequences of running a distance longer that I had been used to the previous two years, and also doing so across the highest hill in the local neighborhood. And remaining immobile the day after for the nine hours' bus drive to Berlin didn't help me either. Still I felt fresh when I the following day was to meet Sperling for wrestling.
I had wrestled him when I had visited Berlin two months earlier and then I had made several pictures of our fight, as I thought that this could give me an idea about how to counteract his well planned control attacks on me. But little did it help, for every time I caught him between my legs he always managed to press free, this way opening an invitation for him to even more control of me. I had hoped that my fitness could be a bit better than his, but apparently I had destroyed my readyness with the hard run I had done a few days before. So even though it now was the third time I had wrestled Sperling he again could claim his victory.
Just like the last time, Sperling's friend Tom now wanted to have a match with me while I was there. This time we started relaxed so he didn't flatten me out like he had done when we had wrestled back in January. I was better prepared this time, as I now knew how strong he was, and I actually managed to have a good match with him. Obviously I again lost to him, but for me it is always a pleasure to wrestle a strong and muscular body as Tom had.
As always when I am in Berlin I stayed the days with my good wrestling mate kleiner kerl, and it had become usual that several of his wrestling friends showed up for a match on Saturday, so this day becomes my main wrestling day while I am there. Usually one or two of these guys are some I had never wrestled before, and so it also was this time, with Martin from Brandenburg as the new guy. Of course kleiner kerl had previously wrestled him, but I had never done so. We had about the same weight, and he was a bit shorter than me - and therefore more compact. Also he was five years younger than me and more trained, so it should be no surprise that I also lost this match. Still I had a good fight, for it is always a pleasure to wrestle a safe and sane guy like Martin.
Xxlbear came next. Back in January I had succeeded winning over him following a small accident he had had in the initial stages of our fight. But I had always felt that it was wrong that I had won over him, for he was 30 pounds heavier than me - and even though he is two years older than me he looks very young for his age. I had heard around that he should be a very strong guy, so it shouldn't come much as a surprise that he this time could defeat me. In some way it felt good that our situation now was as it was as it should be. Hopefully I can have an equal match with him next time.
One good thing with staying my Berlin days with kleiner kerl is that he is always ready for a match when I come, so he is probably the guy I have wrestled the most with. It is now nearly a year ago since we had our first match, which he clearly won - but since then his victories had not been so easy, as he every time says that I have grown stronger since last time. Maybe he can be right, but half a year before he had selected one of my leotards to be a leotard of luck for him, for every time we had wrestled, the wearer of this leotard had won our match. I had been so happy that I with him had a place to stay in Berlin, so therefore I this time gave him one of these leotards as a gift, maybe it could be just as good for him as the other leotards had been for me.
So when we were to wrestle he came on me as if shot from a gun - later he told me that he thought this was to be the only way that he could get on top of me. Or maybe sportynord had told him that I had used the same technique when I had been wrestling him the previous month. Anyway, this strategy worked quite well for him, and after that he defended himself like just kleiner kerl can do. Probably I will have to wear one of my similar leotards next time we wrestle.
My last opponent this Saturday was Bernd a.k.a. catchbear1. I had always felt good wrestling him, for with him I several times have managed to win over him. Though it didn't really feel right, for Bernd is both stronger and heavier than me - and also more experienced. But his wrestling goes more on catching, that sometimes he is on top and sometimes his opponent is. While I always try to win any match and therefore are happy the few times I succeed in this. Today was one of these good days, for apparently I this time managed to defeat him. But not for long - for towards the end of our second round he kept me all under control and I couldn't do much against him.
So far I have wrestled every month through the winter season, which had been my plan since October - and actually I have wrestled every month since last July. But why stop here? There are two strong heavyweight guys who have challenged me a year ago, and they both want to have a match with me next month. They both can easily crush me, but I think I will enjoy putting my body to their challenge. Though I probably only can afford visiting one of them coming April.
A female co-worker and I were having difficulties getting along at work, constantly arguing on how to get things done. We took our arguments to the boss too many times, until we were told to stop, leaving us in a quandary as to how to get on with the job, so we decided to settle things physically, in a private room with some mats, see the matted room image. Before I proceed, I would like to say that this is a true story. I am 5’ 10” and 165 lbs, 60 yo while she is about 5’ 6” and 140 lbs, 39 yo, and German nationality. Nice looking, but what a bitchy persona! Fluent at English though. So we went to a private room with a very big set of mats to settle our “discussion”. She was a black bikini, barefoot, and me a speedo, also barefoot. Certainly as we faced each other on the mats, I was confident that this was going to end well. I agreed to her terms, where she could do punches and kicks to the body, while I could only wrestle back. We began by circling each other, each looking for an opening. It was not long before she moved forward with lightening speed, kicking the side of my right knee, also hooking her foot into my knee, twisting the knee, and putting me down on my ass. My knee hurt. She laughed as she waited for me to get up. I rose, on a very shaky knee, and she moved forward fast, first slapping me hard across the face, which surprised me, then landing a swift uppercut into my gut. As I bent forward from the uppercut, she jumped onto me, wrapping her legs around my middle and placing pressure on the back of my neck with both hands. Give that my knee was wobbly, I collapsed backwards, with her landing on top of me. I quickly wrap my leg around hers, retarding her forward movement and preventing her from moving into a school “girl” pin. She softly told me to let go of her leg, and when I did not, her next move was to quickly reach her hand down and lock unto my testicles....squeezing hard. I still did not release her leg, and as she realised she did not have a good grip on my nuts, she quickly repositioned her grasp, let at a smile as I gasped....Now she had me, and again she told me to release her leg that was being held my leg. I now had little choice, so I released her leg, and suddenly found myself in a grapevine. I found myself getting very hard as she forced my legs apart, and as I stared into her eyes, with her face just above me, with a “knowing” smile. With my arms pinned, and my legs spread, it was time for me demonstrate something, anything, so I used my superior leg muscle to force her legs to close. Not much of a victory, but now I was desperate for anything....She did not like this display of strength, so she broke the hold and stood. As I sat up though, she stuck me in the chest with a lightening fast kick, that sent me back down horizontal with the mat, and stunned from the blow. She then backed off a bit, allowing me to get to my feet, but again, a swift front snap kick to my balls, sending me down to my knees. She then wasted no time in successfully placing me in an arm bar, with my arm trapped between her legs, and both of her feet firmly planted on my face.....
This was pretty much it, as I tried to first tap out, and then shouted submit, but she decided to conduct a conversation before releasing me, making me apologize, agree to work for her, and also a few other humiliations. Later at work, I learned that 15 years ago she was the German BJJ champion, so I guess the moral of my story is, be careful what you wish for.....
A buddy of mine who is much taller standing 6.4 feet came over and I put him in the bigger of the two singlets. It was still snug on him but it looked really good. I wore the smaller one and we locked up The pouch is minimal but at least it does a good job of covering your balls. I would not recommend these for No holes barred wrestling unless you don't mind some really close contact.